To Leave or Not to Leave - That Is the Question

This is one of the hardest questions we face in life.

For me though, it’s become simple - not easy, but simple.

I’ve spent enough of my life staying.

Staying in places, relationships, and situations that forced me to betray myself - until I finally got sick of it.

Sick of the pretending, the justifying, the shrinking.

Now, the second I feel that pull to betray myself again, my whole being rejects it.

I don’t even have control over it anymore.

For me, if it’s not right, if something feels off, if it doesn’t align - I will leave.

And just to be clear - I’m not saying it’s okay to quit when things get hard. I’m definitely not a quitter. But there comes a point - in any situation, relationship, friendship, or job - when you’ve tried everything, and deep down, you just know.

You feel it in your gut:this isn’t working anymore, and it never will.

And as terrifying as it is, you have to trust that knowing.

Even when it feels impossible.

Even when leaving feels like it might break you.

Even when your whole world, as you know it, starts to crumble.

You have no choice - because that’s the price of saving yourself.

Leaving anything that no longer serves you is huge - a romantic relationship, a friendship, a family member, a job, a habit, an expectation.

And no, it’s not selfish. You don’t have to stay in something that makes you unhappy just because outsiders think it’s the “right” thing to do. It’s not selfish to walk away from something that’s draining you.

At the end of the day, all you have is you.

If you’re not taking care of yourself, who will?

Leaving is never easy. It’s painful. It’s messy. It’s lonely.

But staying when it means betraying yourself? That’s worse.

There’s nothing heavier than living a lie - pretending you’re okay when you’re not.

And sometimes, it’s not even about someone being a bad person.They probably are a good person - maybe even one of the best.

But that doesn’t automatically make them your person.

Because your person will see you, value you, and have your back in the ways you need. They’ll protect your peace, not take it.

So yes, they might be a great person - just not your person, at least not right now.

All in all, if someone can’t see your worth, you can’t make them.

If something no longer brings peace, you can’t fix it by staying.

So I guess the big questions to ask when you’ve reached your breaking point - when you’ve tried as hard as you can - are these:

Am I betraying myself by accepting this relationship?

Does this relationship cost me my peace?

And if I sit quietly and block out all the outside noise, what is my really intuition telling me?

To leave or not to leave?

Make the decision - and stick to it, no matter what.

Don’t worry about whether it’s the “right” decision.

Make it the right decision.

Ok, rant over ✌️

Nanette x