The goal of this practice is to create a sense of internal safety. When the body feels safe, it can release the protective armor it has built up. By prioritizing this connection, you allow your physical mobility to improve as a natural side effect of emotional and nervous system regulation.

While most breakups involve grieving the future that was imagined, this experience didn't leave me grieving anything other than the life I had lived prior to this person. By the time the relationship ended, I no longer recognized the person I had become.

I don’t think people realize how much constant phone use changes the way we think, focus, sleep, create, and even experience everyday life. These are some of the habits and changes that helped me cut out social media and reduce my screen time.

I thought having an endless data plan would be the cure to all of my problems, but oh was I wrong. For me, the issue became noticeable as this endless scrolling pattern got really embarrassingly worse. I had lost all sense of joy. My brain wiring was literally changing, very quickly, and negatively impacting my life.

I’ve always had a pattern of thinking in extremes. It’s all or nothing. And for a long time, I thought that was discipline. What I’ve realized, looking at both sides of this, is that honesty matters more than anything. Both extremes felt different, but they were both ways of avoiding. The only way out was honesty.

The dimmed version of me still quietly exists in the back of my head; dimming my energy, mind, actions, and self expression. I have to recognize that without it, I'd have lived more intensely in punishment, fear, survival, chaos, uncertainty, and emotional danger. So it makes sense that it's hard to let it go easily.

When you wake up, you stop negotiating your worth. You stop over explaining. You stop managing other people’s emotions at the expense of your own. You stop shrinking to preserve comfort that was never mutual.

Just inventory turning into space. Space turning into possibility. Possibility turning into forward motion. Some lives expand by adding.